At 25, I still do it.
Let’s talk openly, not to judge, not to shame but to understand.

You’ve heard the word: masturbation. It means touching your own body, especially your genitals, to feel pleasure or release sexual energy. It’s a natural act  not just in humans but in animals too.
But the real questions are:
Why do we do it? Is it good or bad? Should we stop?

Let me take you through what I’ve learned in my journey so far.
Why Do People Masturbate?
Most people masturbate for common reasons:
Pleasure  It feels good. Your brain releases dopamine  the “feel-good” chemical bringing relief and relaxation.
Stress relief  It helps calm the nerves when you’re stressed, anxious, or bored.
No partner  It becomes a substitute when one is single or in a long-distance relationship.
Control and privacy  There’s no need for performance or emotional complexity. It’s simple.

But here’s what I’ve found through deeper reflection:
90% of people don’t masturbate because they’re horny.
They do it because they’re lonely.
And that changes everything.
Is It Good or Bad?
I don’t think it’s either.
To me, it’s a trap.
Not because it’s evil  but because it can turn into a way to avoid reality.
You have sexual energy. It’s real.
But if you’re only using it to run away from boredom, pain, or silence then you’re not using it.
You’re losing it.
Think of it like this:
God gave you hunger  but you can’t satisfy it by rubbing your stomach.
Likewise, sexual energy demands deeper expression, not just surface stimulation.

So is it bad?
No.
Is it risky when it becomes habitual escape?
Yes.

What Helped Me Change
At 21, I was masturbating almost daily.
At 25, it’s reduced to once or twice a week.
What changed?
I stopped watching porn.
I still read erotic stories but now, I write my own.
I don’t run from thoughts I explore them.
I don’t suppress my desires I study them.
Writing Dirty to Stay Clean
That’s what I did with sexual energy.
I stopped running from it.
I dove deep not to escape but to understand.
And something powerful happened.
When I write a dirty story, it’s not just about lust.
It’s a mirror into my mind.
The characters I create reflect parts of me the lonely boy, the seeker, the intense lover, the confused soul.
Writing becomes meditation.
The sexual energy that once demanded action… now gets transformed into thought, words, and emotion.
By the time I finish writing, the need for physical release is already gone.
And the result?
No guilt.
No fog.
Pure clarity.
So when people ask me how I reduced my frequency, I don’t say, “I stopped.”
I say:
“I built a better playground for my mind.”

Lord Krishna wouldn’t say, “Don’t touch.”
He would say, “Don’t waste what could awaken you.”
This energy can create life but it can also create poetry, vision, love, discipline, and devotion.
So the real question is not:
“Should I masturbate or not?”
The real question is:
“Is this act making me more conscious or more foggy?”

𝑨 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒊𝒅,
“To turn off that sexual energy, you need to spend it somewhere else  like sports, gym, or clubbing.”
He had a point, but I couldn’t help thinking what about those who can’t afford that lifestyle?
My view is a little biased, maybe, but I believe you don’t need money to move energy.
You can go for a long walk, explore your city, meet a friend, or just sit in a crowded park. Movement and connection are free.
But here’s the catch even these can become another escape from reality.
And I don’t believe in escaping. I face it.
If a sexual thought comes, I don’t run from it I talk to it. I study it. I embrace it.

𝐏𝐮𝐧𝐲𝐤𝐨𝐭𝐢’𝐬 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐛𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧

“Can you choose pleasure without being ruled by it?”
If yes then you’re free.
If no then even a harmless act becomes a chain around your will.
Punykoti might say:
One who sits in ēkantha (solitude),
without craving or fleeing,
finds the whole universe seated within him.
And one who is surrounded by a hundred friends,
but has not found his Self
will still feel the ache of ontitana (loneliness).

In one line, Punykoti feels:
One should do it but not as an escape from reality, not due to lack of a partner or resources.
Do it to reach the next level of focus.
Because I’ve personally felt immediate clarity and focus after masturbating but only when the release was triggered by adrenaline, not dopamine.
And that adrenaline came from the depth of writing and reflecting
not from shallow fantasy or mindless scrolling.

Final Thought :
If consciousness leads you become truly human.
Use your energies  not to escape reality  but to build a deeper one.